Here's my story. My husband was in TJ in Jan-Feb. 08, after being deported for serving Federal time for re-entry. I had sent him to Victoria de Cortzar, Jaral del Progreso, Guanajuato to live with my mother-in-law and family. I sent him funds to open his pizzeira local, so he can get on his feet, and feel useful. The town has very few job opportunities mostly farmwork. The pizza business stumbled to a halt, and business has been very slow. Also extended family problems started to arise, so my husband has decided to return to Tijuana. He will be returning next week, and I will be taking vacation to get him established. The reason he is returning to TJ is that he feels he will be closer to us, since we live in Montebello, Ca. He says him being in Guanajuato was nice, but he was too far away from his family, which is myself and his two stepchildren. My fear is what if he doesn't get on his feet in Tijuana, then what???
In the beginning of the year, we had to find an apartment, buy furniture, and get him situated in Tijuana. He never lived there, and was not familiar with the area. I had been in TJ only for pleasure and shopping in the past years. It was a crazy experience getting accustomed to a place that is completely for me a different world. The irony was that I quickly got used to the people and the area in the short time we were there, I would visit him weekly on the weekends. We decided in February to visit his family in Guanajuato, and it was a beautiful trip. He had not visited his mother in 14 years, so it was emotional. After a week, we returned to TJ, and decided it was best for him to be with his family to help them economically, and spend time with them. I flew out in May for the fiestas del pueblo, that was awesome. I went to several rodeos, bailes with mexican artists, and other customs that is done during that time in the town. The travel expense, the telephone expense, and the business not resulting to his expectations. It has been more of a headache and big hole in my bank account.
Now him returning to TJ, I will support him in what he wants to do, but I pray it will work out this time. Again I will take vacation time, and money that I had saved with a lot of sacrifice to get an apartment, buy furniture, and see what job opportunities are available for him. This time I made it clear I can only make bi weekly or monthly trip for the weekend, otherwise, its too much on me and the kids.
I apologize for all the venting but I stumbled onto your blog, when I was researching on a search engine about living in TJ and you guys came up. I have looked at many of your members' blogs, and I am really happy with the feedback you give the members. Well, this is me and hope maybe you give guys can shed some light as to am I crazy, am I stupid, or am I just normal.
Al rato!!!!
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Well, let's start with my current situation. I live in Montebello, Ca. with my children, Lil Mary, (21), Marty, (20), Pedro, (15), Alexxis, (14) and my grandpa Pedro, (92) and still going. Oh, yeah, and my precious grandson Isaac (3) from my daughter Lil Mary. I am currently married, my husband name is Alberto, he was deported and is currently living in Tijuana. We are in the process to see if he can or in the future fix his immigrant status, and eventually live with us in the states legally. I work in Montebello, my job title is Credit and Collections Specialist. Believe it or not, I love my job, its a daily adventure. My past time is to be involved in my childrens' sports activities, hang out with my compadres, go shopping, travel locally, comedy shows, artists concerts, and try to live pacific and not go insane.
I, myself was born at Women's Hospital @ General on a beautiful day. I have another sibling his name is Miguel he is (4 years younger). As you can see I have a small family, my mother and father are both deceased. My brother, Miguel, too much drama, so he is not active in the family tree. I attended catholic school in ELA, Our Lady of Lourdes and then proceeded to Sacred Heart of Mary High School in Montebello. In 1986 I had my first love and got my feet too wet, and ended up pregnant with Lil Mary. 11 months later, I was pregnant again with Marty. Things didn't work out with their father, he didn't mature enough when we became parents, so we parted ways. I finished my high school at Roosevelt HS in Boyle Heights, Ca. Immediately graduating, I was accepted @ CSULA, and obtained a job with the LAUSD. In 1991. I found my love his name is Eugene. We dated for 30 days consecutively, and married after through the Superior Court. Eugene raised Lil Mary (4) and Mary (3) like his own, we bonded like the family we were, and (2) years later Pedro came along and finally Alexxis to complete the family. At that point, I thought my life was perfect, children, husband and secure job.
In 1996, we separated due to too family interference on both sides. My children took it the worst, and to add to the mix, Lil Mary and Marty father had came back into the picture, and was visiting the children only because he had to pay child support. During the time of our separation, Eugene and I found new partners and moved on with our lives. We never divorced, we always kept our communication open because we knew we still had love for each other and our children. Life went on, then in January of 2001 Eugene was shot and killed. Leaving a very empty hole in my heart, and my children without a father. This was a real tragedy, and legally still being his wife and preparing everything was a big task for me to accomplish. The worst moment for me was the day I had to tell Pedro and Alexxis they were never going to feel a hug or kiss from their daddy again. Through all of this, my support rock was Alberto. A year later we married, Alberto and I were a married couple. He has raised Pedro and Alexxis to the best of his abilities, being he is not a father himself. I know the biggest question, that will arise, why his papers were not fixed? Simple answer lack of willingness to commence the process, and since everything was going well we
didn't make it a priority. A big overlook on our part, but now we are trying to repair some of that by doing it now.
Well members I think I have opened up a lot of myself with you , now you know mi historia. I feel a lot better putting this in writing, oops, I have taken an extensive lunch, I need to return to my work.
Al rato!!!
I, myself was born at Women's Hospital @ General on a beautiful day. I have another sibling his name is Miguel he is (4 years younger). As you can see I have a small family, my mother and father are both deceased. My brother, Miguel, too much drama, so he is not active in the family tree. I attended catholic school in ELA, Our Lady of Lourdes and then proceeded to Sacred Heart of Mary High School in Montebello. In 1986 I had my first love and got my feet too wet, and ended up pregnant with Lil Mary. 11 months later, I was pregnant again with Marty. Things didn't work out with their father, he didn't mature enough when we became parents, so we parted ways. I finished my high school at Roosevelt HS in Boyle Heights, Ca. Immediately graduating, I was accepted @ CSULA, and obtained a job with the LAUSD. In 1991. I found my love his name is Eugene. We dated for 30 days consecutively, and married after through the Superior Court. Eugene raised Lil Mary (4) and Mary (3) like his own, we bonded like the family we were, and (2) years later Pedro came along and finally Alexxis to complete the family. At that point, I thought my life was perfect, children, husband and secure job.
In 1996, we separated due to too family interference on both sides. My children took it the worst, and to add to the mix, Lil Mary and Marty father had came back into the picture, and was visiting the children only because he had to pay child support. During the time of our separation, Eugene and I found new partners and moved on with our lives. We never divorced, we always kept our communication open because we knew we still had love for each other and our children. Life went on, then in January of 2001 Eugene was shot and killed. Leaving a very empty hole in my heart, and my children without a father. This was a real tragedy, and legally still being his wife and preparing everything was a big task for me to accomplish. The worst moment for me was the day I had to tell Pedro and Alexxis they were never going to feel a hug or kiss from their daddy again. Through all of this, my support rock was Alberto. A year later we married, Alberto and I were a married couple. He has raised Pedro and Alexxis to the best of his abilities, being he is not a father himself. I know the biggest question, that will arise, why his papers were not fixed? Simple answer lack of willingness to commence the process, and since everything was going well we
didn't make it a priority. A big overlook on our part, but now we are trying to repair some of that by doing it now.
Well members I think I have opened up a lot of myself with you , now you know mi historia. I feel a lot better putting this in writing, oops, I have taken an extensive lunch, I need to return to my work.
Al rato!!!
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